Could My Child Be Autistic? A Parent’s Guide to Early Signs and What to Do Next (UK Edition)
As a parent, you know your child better than anyone. When something doesn’t feel quite right - maybe it’s their communication, behaviour, or the way they respond to the world - it’s natural to want answers. If you’ve ever wondered, “Could my child be autistic?” - you’re not alone. And more importantly, you're not on your own.
At Cognition Care, we support families across the UK who are navigating the early stages of an autism diagnosis with warmth, clarity and expertise. This guide is here to help you understand the signs and explore your next steps with confidence.
What Is Autism?
Autism is a neurodevelopmental difference that affects how people communicate, process sensory information, and interact with the world around them. It’s a spectrum — meaning every autistic person is unique. Some children may need a lot of support, while others may appear to be coping well but are struggling internally.
Autism isn’t a disease or something to be "fixed" - it’s simply a different way of being. With the right understanding and support, autistic children can thrive.
Learn more about autism on the NHS website
Early Signs of Autism in Children
Signs of autism can appear as early as 18 months but may be more noticeable around age 2–4. They might include:
Delayed speech or unusual language patterns (e.g. echolalia)
Limited eye contact or facial expressions
Not responding to their name
Intense interest in specific topics or objects
Repetitive behaviours like hand flapping, lining up toys, or spinning
Sensory differences - such as distress with certain sounds, textures, or lights
Struggles with changes to routine
Difficulty with social play or engaging with other children
Some children mask these signs, especially girls or those with high verbal ability - so trust your instincts even if others don’t immediately notice.
What Should I Do If I’m Concerned?
1. Speak to Your GP or School SENCo
Your GP can refer you to local NHS autism services or Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS). Many families also speak to their child’s teacher or the school Special Educational Needs Coordinator (SENCo), who can help document behaviours and start a support plan.
Note: NHS waiting lists for autism assessments are often long - in some areas, families wait over 18 months. That’s why some choose to explore private assessment alongside or instead of the NHS route.
Can My Child Get Support Without a Diagnosis?
Yes. Your child doesn’t need a formal diagnosis to receive support in school. Under the SEND Code of Practice, all UK schools are required to support children with additional needs through something called SEN Support.
However, a diagnosis can strengthen the case for an Education, Health and Care Plan (EHCP) - a legally binding document that outlines your child’s needs and the specific support they’re entitled to Independent guidance on EHCPs and SEND law – IPSEA
Life After Diagnosis: What Support Is Available?
After an autism diagnosis, many parents ask: “Now what?”
Here are some options:
Parent workshops or training (e.g. NAS EarlyBird or local authority sessions)
Therapies — such as speech and language therapy, occupational therapy, or emotional regulation support
SEN support at school — including sensory accommodations and social skills interventions
EHCP application — with guidance from your local SENDIASS team
Practical support and resources for families – Contact
Most importantly, you’re not expected to figure it all out alone.
You’re Doing the Right Thing
Whether you're just starting to wonder or already deep in the referral process, remember this: noticing your child’s differences isn’t judging them - it’s advocating for them.
At Cognition Care, we’re here to help. Our team offers expert-led autism assessments and family-friendly guidance to help you make informed, compassionate decisions.
Need advice or ready to book an assessment?
Call us on 0203 818 8008
Email admin@cognitioncare.co.uk
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Written by the team at Cognition Care
Neurodivergent-affirming autism support across the UK